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That was the “heartfelt” apology that my almost seven year old daughter came up with, after a raging massimo dutti online shop meltdown in her classroom the day before, during which she verbally unfriended her best friend in the class.
Of course, trying to play the part of the responsible mom of a daughter with asperger’s, I tried to steer her away from these words, claiming that they sound like an excuse. And, well… NOT very sorry.
Because I persisted in trying to alter her idea of an apology, she left for school on the bus, still anxious, and perseverating on how she needed ME to WRITE an apology for her, because she hates writing and writing makes her hand too tired and cramped, and it needed to be done NOW and it was just all too overwhelming for her.
As I reflected on my feelings of failure as a mom that morning, that I couldn’t make her see things massimo dutti online shop differently, I realized that I was trying too hard. In my efforts massimo dutti online shop to teach her “Theory of Mind,” the concept that other people can think and feel differently than her, I de-valued her own struggles.
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After her massive school tantrum had subsided on the day she was mean to her friend, she called me from the principal’s office. “I’m having a hard day,” she said. “She told me she couldn’t come to my birthday party, and I said she wasn’t my friend anymore, but I was just being sarcastic.”
“Sweetie, that’s not sarcasm,” I replied defeatedly. Sarcasm has been a point of contention before, as it confuses her. In an effort to relay that she was saying something she didn’t mean, she described it as sarcasm. I made a mental note to find a way to better explain the concept of sarcasm to her, and told her that she should apologize massimo dutti online shop to her friend.
In all actuality, I knew that she was disappointed and confused in that moment that her friend politely declined her party invite because her family already had plans. She misinterpreted the situation, and was so overcome with emotion that there was no sorting through to logic. Her feelings were too big, too confusing. She exploded. I felt sorry for the innocent victim who was likely just trying to let her know about the party she wouldn’t be attending. I felt even more sorry for my daughter, who couldn’t interpret this rather cut-and-dry social scenario through her own sensitivity.
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Yes, she’s pretty, smart, and charming most of the time. And yes, she will throw completely socially inappropriate tantrums massimo dutti online shop at times, and not fit properly into the box that she’s supposed to fit into. She’ll possibly massimo dutti online shop be wearing a ridiculously sparkly dress while she